Learning To Say No Without Guilt (EP 114)
Barb Nangle is back to unpack how real boundaries create internal safety, cut burnout, and help you stop abandoning yourself. We talk about learning to say no without guilt, and how that shift ripples through work, relationships, and recovery.
This conversation picks up right where part one left off, but now we zoom in on Barb’s actual work helping overwhelmed professional women who say yes when they want to say no. She breaks down “internal safety” as the ability to have your own back when someone is upset with you or when that old guilt and negative self-talk shows up, instead of caving or beating yourself up for weeks. Barb drives home that boundaries aren’t about controlling other people, they’re about deciding what you will do and following through, even when it’s uncomfortable.
We also get into people‑pleasing, codependency, perfectionism, and the burnout that shows up when you’re constantly pouring from an empty cup. Barb shares how she built self‑worth, self‑love, and self‑trust one decision and one boundary at a time, plus how reparenting work helped her “backfill” the love she didn’t get as a kid. She lays out practical first steps: starting with a boundary on your own self‑talk, practicing with easygoing people, and learning that discomfort doesn’t automatically mean danger. By the end, we’re talking Hallmark movies, Pellegrino with lemon, and how recovery even changes your taste buds.
=== Chapters
- 00:32 Part Two Begins
- 02:44 Boundaries Coaching Defined
- 05:48 What Internal Safety Means
- 14:47 Women, Burnout, and Self-Priority
- 18:51 Safety Comes From Within
- 23:19 Boundaries Prevent Burnout
- 27:54 Start With Self-Boundaries
- 31:12 Real Boundaries, Real Consequences
- 34:33 Discomfort Is Not Danger
- 41:13 Recovery Joys and Guilty Pleasures
- 44:47 Course on Internal Safety
=== Guest: Barb Nangle, Higher Power Coaching & Consulting
- Website: https://higherpowercc.com
- LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/barbnangle
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/higherpowercoaching
=== Resources / Companies / Books / Podcasts
- Fragmented to Whole: (Podcast): https://higherpowercc.com/podcast/
- Boundaries That Hold: How to Stop Overriding Yourself in Real Time (Course): https://higherpowercc.com/boundariesthathold
- Alcoholics Anonymous (AA) / Overeaters: https://www.aa.org
- Adult Children of Alcoholics / Dysfunctional Families (ACA): https://adultchildren.org
- Pellegrino (San Pellegrino Sparkling Water): https://amzn.to/4hqvfCE
- Hallmark Channel: https://www.hallmarkchannel.com
- Lifetime (TV Network): https://www.mylifetime.com
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